When Life Gives You Roadblocks

When Life Gives You Roadblocks

So your'e driving along, full speed down the highway of life. Windows down, wind in your hair, jammin' to tunes, and not a cloud in the sky. Life could not be a smoother ride. Then out of no where.... BAM! You hit a wall. Your'e perfect drive through life just become a total mess. So what are you suppose to do?


I HAVE NO IDEA. That's the conclusion that I have come to in my 22 years of life. Either you pick up the pieces and rebuild the car that is in a million pieces or go out and buy a new one and move on. There are moments in life (more than I would like to admit to in my own life) that just simply wear you down and attempt to break you. But, that's the silver lining- you have two options. 1) you let it break you down and tear you apart or 2) you use it and grow from it.


I've had the week from hell. And all I keep saying to is "God, have I not had enough?" In which he responds, "No- I am using this to test you and to shape you, just like all the other trials I have thrown your way and will throw your way in the future." I'm a fairly optimistic person with an outlook that you might as well dance in the storm instead of let it get you down. However, there is this times that I like to call "the impact stage." This is as soon as you hit the wall and realize- I am not dead but what the hell do I do now? Here's what I have found works... Breath, a good five minutes of breathing. And then you cry, say a lot of nonsense and just cry. Cry in bed, cry in the car, cry at work (when appropriate), cry at the gym. Just cry until your body says its had enough. And then sleep. Do something that makes you happy. And then think pray about the impact and what do from there.

Now here's the part that is so hard. Dealing with the other people that are effected. You seek support and answers from loved ones, you take in their advice and use it and do what is best for you. And this is where it sucks because you have to do what is best for you and what you and God want for you but your actions are effecting more than just yourself. Now, at the end of the day, the people who truly love you will love you no matter what decision you make but in getting there, that is the issue.


So you have taken all the necessary steps. You've prayed, you've cried, you've talked, you even listened to Taylor Swift and Kelly Clarkson to give you a boost of confidence that flew out the window at some point and now its up to you. And you wish so hard that your head and heart would align. You see about a year ago, I hit a wall and followed my heart. Do I regret it? I don't think so. Because it taught me a lot and made me a better person. I've always followed my heart and rebuilt the car. Because there is something wonderful about the nostalgia and feel of the car you love. But, remember, if you hit the same wall over and over... throw out the pieces and buy a new car. I see the best in people and some see it as a sign of weakness, I see it as a sign of integrity and character. I believe in second chances and even at the age of 22, I believe in fairy tales and a happy ending. Life is journey with a lot of roadblocks, some of us have more than others, however, the ride is imperfect and figuring out the best route of travel makes it absolutely perfect.


I  have yet to determine the best route of travel past the roadblock. Do you plow right through, go around it or build a ramp and fly right over it? Again, I say... I HAVE NO IDEA. Each one roadblock is different and there is no guarantee of what is on the other side. Maybe you need to kick it in reverse and readjust. I don't know the answer, I don't know who  you listen to... the voice in your head or the song in your heart. Whichever, path you take through, don't ever regret, don't ever question but strive to keep moving.