Stop it, please just stop

Stop It, Please Just Stop 

I came across an article (if you want to call a list an article) that was titled- 20 Reasons Why Women Should Enjoy Being Single in their 20's. 

First of all, I have say I respect the writer for one reason and one reason only- being inspirational and empowering women in their 20's to be AWESOME. 

Second of all, the article pissed me off and made me question our society and how we have become so obsessive over the term "In a Relationship" or "Single". Last year, when my boyfriend and I broke up, changing my status from "In a Relationship" to "Single" was like the most annoying and painful thing I've ever done. People that I haven't spoken to since I was in elementary school would message me and be like "what happened, are you alright?" No I am not alright, are you an idiot?? Then, when we got back together in January, I had people ask me, "what happened, are you alright?" Yes I am alright, are you idiot? He didn't coax me into being his girlfriend, it was a conscious decision. 

So I digress... back to this list... I read it out of curiosity because these lists have become extremely popular with the rise in buzz-feed followers. The article list all these things that women in the 20's should do and be single doing them, the list ranges from be spontaneous to buy that expensive bag or shoes, you have been wanting. These are great suggestions (sarcastic tone is strong..FYI). Here's the reason- 

1.) If you are in your 20's and in an awesome relationship,  you CAN STILL DO THESE THINGS

2.) If you are in your 20's and have money for expensive purses and shoes, YOU ARE AMAZING and should buy me one as well 

Almost all of the things that are listed in this article are things that girls in their 20's, in relationships can do with their significant other. Even the one that suggests going on as many dates as you want... NOW I DON'T recommend doing this with multiple people but with the person you are committed to. Date your boyfriend or girlfriend or husband. Don't become complacent because your'e in a relationship. Have fun! 

Now don't get me wrong, if you are single- enjoy it. Personally, the first two months of being single for me last year, were the freaking worst. Then, I began to embrace it and deal with it and have fun. This list is great because these are things that you should always do, it's called enjoying life. This life is so short and so imperfect, why stress yourself out over being in a relationship or being single and the list of things YOU MUST do while single because once you actually find the one, your life is over. This is so not true, my relationship is the furthest thing from perfect, we are the definition of imperfect and I LOVE IT. We continue to grow and balance with each other every step of the way. If you aren't in a relationship or if you are find a balance and love this perfectly imperfect life and stop following absurd list that someone writes to make you question if you're doing it right, because odds are you aren't doing right 100% of the time.